Like the [il]Liberal movement itself, it is narcissistic and shallow. Just like Critical Race Theory, transgenderism is skin deep – externalities only. What Walsh points out, and many of us understand, is transgenderism only treats the outward physical manifestations of another sex by those suffering from gender dysphoria (or those swept up the social contagion affecting many pre-teens and teens (and Moms with Munchausen Syndrome by proxy that states their two-year-old toddler understands what sex is and it isn’t what it observably is).
There is that saying that we men have no idea what women are or want. No, not in the way that Walsh’s now infamous (and HATED by the Left every time we on the Right ask it) “What is a Woman?”. He’s a hater, I’m a hater, you can be a hater, too, if you ask it – and demand an answer (Thank you, SCOTUS Justice and Harvard grad Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson, for forever making it clear that the Left can’t define what a woman is – the phrase of unending and very deserving comedy).
But Walsh points out what almost all men (unless you are a Beta male, a simpering male feminist or the run of the mill Leftist) intuitively know – unless you’ve trudged miles upon miles in our shoes, you cannot know the burden that we have that women don’t (and he points out wonderfully, the reverse is true as well). He starts out with a clip from Libs of TikTok that we had previously used on GraniteGrok (Me? Steve?) where the transman James laments that being a man is just plain lonely:
While I put Walsh’s email below for context (I’m on his distro list), here are the important bits (reformatted, emphasis mine):
Here’s what we’re witnessing in this video. A woman was driven, by her own self-loathing and confusion, to reject her womanhood and attempt to become a man. She did not succeed in this pursuit, and never will, but through the help of drugs and surgery, she has managed to create a semi-convincing costume of a man. It is convincing enough, apparently, that most people she encounters reflexively accept and see her as a man. She had imagined that being seen as a man would be a great relief for her, a source of peace and freedom, but instead she has found that manhood is not the utopian fantasyland she imagined it would be. Men in the modern world are, as she has discovered, often deeply isolated, alienated, and alone. It is lonely to be a man, she says. And she’s right.
She did not know this before she set out on the fool’s errand of transitioning, but she has now discovered that men carry a heavy burden, a cross that is invisible to many women. Now she finds herself shouldering just a portion of it, and it has broken her. She wanted to be a man, but was not prepared for what that meant. How could she be? She wasn’t a man and therefore could not have possibly known what it was like to be one.
She still doesn’t know.
Of course, she doesn’t, as she fell for the Left’s belief that we are all just mere interchangeable cogs in their Social Machine. They believe, just like chess pieces, that we can be moved at their command, hither and thither, to further develop THEIR future utopia (at our disruption) via creating chaos. And in this case, how much more chaos can the Left create in greasing the skids by which a person loses all footing on their reality except the skin-deep changes only available by taking drugs (which should be a cautionary tale for other drug decriminalization efforts by the Left and silly Libertarians).
We’re not interchangeable – ALL of us are unique and not just physically, but Walsh covers that as well:
She says that women are deeper and more emotionally mature, which is why it is much less lonely to be a woman. But that isn’t true. Women aren’t deeper or more mature. They are just different. They are women. They are more relational by nature, more empathetic, more affectionate, more emotional, softer in many ways. Women are more fragile; it is easier to hurt them physically and emotionally.
This all can be a source of frustration for us as men, but it’s also what we love about women. We love women because women are women. They are not us. They are different. They have a different way of being, of existing in the universe. They bring another dimension into our lives, and we sense that we need that dimension to be truly whole.
A healthy man doesn’t want to be a woman; he doesn’t want to adopt her ways and her manner of thinking, much less her body but he does want to be with a woman. He wants not to become her, but to be united with her.
I can say this about the inner life of a man because I am one. “James” misses all of this because she isn’t. Instead she surmises that we are simply shallow and emotionally immature. Which is exactly the kind of patronizing, contemptuous anti-male cliche that contributes to the isolation and loneliness that she’s complaining about. It may be true of some men on an individual basis, but generally speaking it is not a lack of depth that causes men to be quieter, more stoic, more reserved, or more distant. It is not even the intentional alienation and marginalization of an aggressively anti-male, masculinity-hating culture, though that is part of the story.
Some of what “James” is tapping into, or at least for the first time noticing, has been an immutable aspect of manhood for as long as the human species has existed. There is indeed more to being a man than simply having male reproductive organs and chromosomes. There is also the actual experience of being a man; the inner life of a man; which runs much deeper than “James” understands, even now. A man tends to be more in tune with the harshest aspects of reality. He is uniquely called to confront the darkness in the world, and uniquely equipped for this calling. It’s not that we don’t feel anything. We do feel, and feel with great depth, but we carry those feelings differently, and often we carry them in silence, alone. This is how we are wired, and the world needs us to be wired this way. Women are also more oriented towards community. They build and depend upon relationships. Men are more solitary by nature. Again, these differences are hardwired.
When we say that men shouldn’t cry, it is not just a joke. There’s an important truth here. The world needs men to pick up their burdens, shoulder them quietly, and get on with business. The more that men become emotional and soft, the more that society ceases to function as it should. We need emotion and softness. That’s why we have women. We also need toughness and hardness. That’s why we’re supposed to have men. The men who fulfill this duty are accused of being unfeeling, of lacking depth, but the truth is that they have a depth that people like James can’t even begin to comprehend. And she probably never will. She has accessed only the surface level of the male experience, and she’s already fleeing for the hills. If she ever got the entire thing; I mean if she was actually able to fully inhabit the mind, the inner life, of a man, it would be torture for her. As it would be for any woman. That’s because women are not meant to carry the burden of manhood, any more than men are meant to carry the burden of womanhood. We are where we belong. Which is the identity we were born with. We cannot comprehend what it’s really like to have any other identity.
He’s right. Absolutely right. We are different, but starting with the now toxic Feminist movement that wishes to banish maleness altogether because they don’t realize the truth that Walsh brings, they simply dismiss that role with “toxic masculinity”.
What those “like a fish needs a bicycle” harridans don’t understand is that THEY are a big part of this problem. They changed the culture by attempting (and in large part, succeeding) to cut men out of the Culture completely. Let’s face it, even as females are glorified, have higher graduation rates in high school and college and are taking the majority of degrees, men are ALWAYS considered to be selfish rapists and layabouts. And DANGEROUS.
You know, its rather serious – the Left is always saying how rotten and DANGEROUS and unequal America is – yet people still want to come here.
If men are so rotten, why is it that women still want to become men?
After all, we’re just not all that privileged anymore, even as we, as husbands, providers, and protectors, still uplift our wives – who ARE women. And after 42 years of marriage, like the insurance company ad, I think I know a thing or two about that – but maybe only a coupla things when I have to admit it. After all, ALL real men still don’t understand their wives completely – and that’s fine as they don’t completely understand us as well.
That’s why we’ve been made to be complementary and not just some cog in a Leftist dissonant Utopia.
Why Women Will Never Know What It???s Like To Be A Man
Anyone who has seen “What is a Woman?” and millions of people have now knows that at the end we do provide an answer to the elusive question. My wife makes an appearance in the very last scene (spoiler) and delivers the correct biologically-sound definition: a woman is an adult human female. That answer is simple and accurate and obviously necessary to establish. But once it has been established, there is plenty more to say about the subject. “What is a Woman” both the question and the film that revolves around it, are meant to be the beginning of a discussion, not the end. A woman is an adult human female ; every woman is that, and must be that but there is so much more to womanhood than its basic biological definition. Just as a man is an adult human male, every man is that, and must be that.
This is a point made, rather accidentally, by a viral Twitter clip featuring a female who, some time ago, changed her name to “James” and attempted to transition into a man. James now calls herself “the trans coach” and offers life advice and motivational tips for other trans people. Yet in a recent video James revealed that she still has a lot to learn about the male identity she is attempting to assume.
What you???re about to watch is truly one of the saddest things you’ve likely seen in a while, but also quite profound in a few different ways. I???ll explain, but first watch:
Now, there’s a lot in that two-minute monologue that’s simply wrong, starting with her calling herself a man, of course but even the wrong parts reveal something essential, if accidentally, about manhood, about trans ideology, and about our culture.
Here’s what we’re witnessing in this video. A woman was driven, by her own self-loathing and confusion, to reject her womanhood and attempt to become a man. She did not succeed in this pursuit, and never will, but through the help of drugs and surgery, she has managed to create a semi-convincing costume of a man. It is convincing enough, apparently, that most people she encounters reflexively accept and see her as a man. She had imagined that being seen as a man would be a great relief for her, a source of peace and freedom, but instead she has found that manhood is not the utopian fantasyland she imagined it would be. Men in the modern world are, as she has discovered, often deeply isolated, alienated, and alone. It is lonely to be a man, she says. And she’s right.
She did not know this before she set out on the fool’s errand of transitioning, but she has now discovered that men carry a heavy burden, a cross that is invisible to many women. Now she finds herself shouldering just a portion of it, and it has broken her. She wanted to be a man, but was not prepared for what that meant. How could she be? She wasn’t a man and therefore could not have possibly known what it was like to be one.
She still doesn’t know.
She says that women are deeper and more emotionally mature, which is why it is much less lonely to be a woman. But that isn’t true. Women aren’t deeper or more mature. They are just different. They are women. They are more relational by nature, more empathetic, more affectionate, more emotional, softer in many ways. Women are more fragile, it is easier to hurt them physically and emotionally.
This all can be a source of frustration for us as men, but it’s also what we love about women. We love women because women are women. They are not us. They are different. They have a different way of being, of existing in the universe. They bring another dimension into our lives, and we sense that we need that dimension to be truly whole.
A healthy man doesn’t want to be a woman, he doesn’t want to adopt her ways and her manner of thinking, much less her body but he does want to be with a woman. He wants not to become her, but to be united with her.
I can say this about the inner life of a man because I am one. “James” misses all of this because she isn’t. Instead she surmises that we are simply shallow and emotionally immature. Which is exactly the kind of patronizing, contemptuous anti-male cliche that contributes to the isolation and loneliness that she’s complaining about. It may be true of some men on an individual basis, but generally speaking it is not a lack of depth that causes men to be quieter, more stoic, more reserved, or more distant. It is not even the intentional alienation and marginalization of an aggressively anti-male, masculinity-hating culture, though that is part of the story.
Some of what “James” is tapping into, or at least for the first time noticing, has been an immutable aspect of manhood for as long as the human species has existed. There is indeed more to being a man than simply having male reproductive organs and chromosomes. There is also the actual experience of being a man, the inner life of a man, which runs much deeper than “James” understands, even now. A man tends to be more in tune with the harshest aspects of reality. He is uniquely called to confront the darkness in the world, and uniquely equipped for this calling. It’s not that we don’t feel anything. We do feel, and feel with great depth, but we carry those feelings differently, and often we carry them in silence, alone. This is how we are wired, and the world needs us to be wired this way. Women are also more oriented towards community. They build and depend upon relationships. Men are more solitary by nature. Again, these differences are hardwired.
When we say that men shouldn’t cry, it is not just a joke. There’s an important truth here. The world needs men to pick up their burdens, shoulder them quietly, and get on with business. The more that men become emotional and soft, the more that society ceases to function as it should. We need emotion and softness. That’s why we have women. We also need toughness and hardness. That’s why we’re supposed to have men. The men who fulfill this duty are accused of being unfeeling, of lacking depth, but the truth is that they have a depth that people like “James” can’t even begin to comprehend. And she probably never will. She has accessed only the surface level of the male experience, and she’s already fleeing for the hills. If she ever got the entire thing ? I mean if she was actually able to fully inhabit the mind, the inner life, of a man, it would be torture for her. As it would be for any woman. That’s because women are not meant to carry the burden of manhood, any more than men are meant to carry the burden of womanhood. We are where we belong. Which is the identity we were born with. We cannot comprehend what it’s really like to have any other identity.
As for “James”, she will not allow herself to comprehend anything. She gets close to partially understanding, but then she makes a left turn and runs away. That’s why at the end she makes sure to clarify that women and allegedly marginalized minorities are still totally justified in treating “cisgender” white males like dirt. She was nearly on the verge of discovering that we are human beings, that we have feelings, that we suffer, but her ideology won’t allow her to finish connecting the dots.
It’s all futile. Just like her transition. It amounts to nothing in the end.
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